You know what comes to mind when I feel like my life is totally fucked and I feel like curling up into a ball and ignoring everything? “THE SHOW MUST GO ON”
At least it can always be said of me, ‘Well… at least she’s honest.’
Ze Frank insights and wisdom -
You never know what direction the bus is going before you get on it. But right when I’d start something new before I had a chance to explore it or get good at it, people start telling me to stop! They want me to get off the bus and sit at the bus stop with them and make fun of the other busses as they go by- but I want to be on the bus!I’ve got the yuck in me too, don’t get me wrong. I’ve felt it when a friend belly laughs at something that I think is predictable and first I feel confusion and then all of a sudden I feel contempt. “No you should think that’s stupid!” As if my feeling of disgust was more valuable than his experience of sheer joy. But I wonder, I wonder if there’s a brief flash of loneliness between my confusion and contempt.
Like any moment where I’m not able to participate in something is some sign that the world is slowly moving away from me. Like I’d rather be joined in unhappiness than be confronted with happiness that I can’t be a part of.
Those French sure have a way with words.
While I valued my happiness, I didn’t really see it as relevant.
please find me
please feel me
please search my soul
please devour me
please consume me whole
please hold me
please push me
please pull me in
please whisper in a way
as if to say
there’s comfort in our sin
Is winning all that counts? Are you absolutely sure about that?
Very little has been said about this…..On December 2, Basque athlete Iván Fernández Anaya was competing in a cross-country race in Burlada, Navarre. He was running second, some distance behind race leader Abel Mutai - bronze medalist in the 3,000-meter steeplechase at the London Olympics. As they entered the finishing straight, he saw the Kenyan runner - the certain winner of the race - mistakenly pull up about 10 meters before the finish, thinking he had already crossed the line.
Fernández Anaya quickly caught up with him, but instead of exploiting Mutai’s mistake to speed past and claim an unlikely victory, he stayed behind and, using gestures, guided the Kenyan to the line and let him cross first.
Ivan Fernandez Anaya, a Basque runner of 24 years who is considered an athlete with a big future (champion of Spain of 5,000 meters in promise category two years ago) said after the test:
“But even if they had told me that winning would have earned me a place in the Spanish team for the European championships, I wouldn’t have done it either. I also think that I have earned more of a name having done what I did than if I had won. And that is very important, because today, with the way things are in all circles, in soccer, in society, in politics, where it seems anything goes, a gesture of honesty goes down well.”
He said at the beginning: “unfortunately, very little has been said of the gesture. And it’s a shame. In my opinion, it would be nice to explain to children, so they do not think that sport is only what they see on TV: violent kicks in abundance, posh statements, fingers in the eyes of the enemy …”
Similar to an iceberg, most of what makes up the being that is me can’t be seen on the surface. However underneath, it is epic. It is jagged and yet smooth- ready to roll past obstacles or break through debris. It is strong and determined- following the current.
We are all like icebergs.
I am a conundrum. I am that moment your tongue moves to say something and your brain forgets to send the signal. I am that breath purposely placed between words to give a moment for thought. I am that stutter, that quivering lip before asking someone out. I am the tick in your hand, in your eyebrow, in your neck… the one that you worry gives away your intent.
I am those silences between exchanges when both parties process their thoughts. I am the searing frustration of interruption. I am the relieving calm of understanding.
I am a middleman, always in between, always moving. Always grasping reality from the edges.
Forget the money. Because if you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely waste your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing… which is stupid. Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing, than a long life spent in a miserable way.
- Alan Watts in ‘What if Money Didn’t Matter’ youtube video